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The Whakapapa of a Wound – Series Introduction – The Wound that Carries
Humble Beginnings:
Matapihi Kirihou – The founding backstory of Te Poutama o te Ora
The plastic windows were never just plastic.
They covered what glass couldn’t be afforded. They let in light, but not clearly. And they were the beginning of a backstory that travels forward — into bodies, into relationships, into the homes our children grow up in, and sometimes into the arms of experiences, others and systems that step in when those homes become unsafe.
What type of therapy do you need?
Not sure what therapy type you need? Learn how to choose a therapist and why the relationship you have with them matters more than the approach used.
Why Am I Not With My Mum and Dad – The Question Children Carry What the Whakapapa passes on – the Children of the Wound
The continuing story of Mere
Children of the Wound
This is the fourth piece in The Whakapapa of a Wound. We have followed Mere from the washing basket, through the biology of her childhood, into the relationships that replicated what she first learned about love. Now we turn toward the children.
Toward the question that is the most tender of all: Why am I not with my Mum and Dad?
I Keep Choosing the Same Person with a Different Face – Trauma Bonding
The continuing story of Mere
She is in her forties now.
She left the first one after seven years.
She told herself she had finally chosen better. New city, new beginning, new person. She believed it completely.
The second one looked nothing like the first. Different face, different voice, different reasons she fell. It took four years before she realised she was standing in the same room with different wallpaper.
By the third time, she stopped telling people. Because how do you explain that you are not stupid, not weak, not choosing this — and yet here you are again?
When Love Became a Debt – Epigenetics, Parentification, and the Weight of ‘Not Good Enough’
