Ideas and guidance
Articles for understanding, reflection and change
Practical insights from counsellors across Aotearoa, written to help you make sense of what you are experiencing.
What Your Descendants Will Thank You For – The moment the healing becomes ancestral — and what you declare forward from here
The gifts my grandparents gave me.Grandad, an Anglican minister and healer, was strong in his faith. He passed before I was born; however, as a child, I remember stories about his importance to the community. God became the redemption story for that ministry. Nan was also impacted by the Tohunga Suppression Act that made her…
I feel like a failure
If you’ve ever had the thought “I’m a failure.” Read this. Maybe it will help.
What is Solution-Focused Therapy?
Solution Focused Therapy (SFT) was developed in the 1980s by Steve de Shazer and Insoo Kim Berg.The approach, as the name suggests, emphasises solutions, not problems. In this article, I discuss the 12 core assumptions that SFT makes and cover the techniques involved.
Online Therapy- 10 Reasons Online Therapy is the best Mental Health Game-Changer.
Changing the norm of access to counselling through online therapy.
Anger
Anger is a secondary emotion meaning that others’ feelings, such as frustration, lie beneath it.
From Wai Māori to Waipiro: The Colonial Wound Beneath the Wine Glass
There is a man in the counselling room who does not have a drinking problem.He is not violent. He does not drink to excess. He has not passed his father’s or grandfather’s patterns down to his children. By every visible measure, the wound has stopped. And yet — every evening, almost without thinking, he reaches…
What type of therapy do I need?
Not sure what therapy type you need? Learn how to choose a therapist and why the relationship you have with them matters more than the approach used.
CBT – Cognitive Behavioural Therapy
CBT is one most effective therapies backed by scientific research that exists today. It is an effective therapy for people who suffer from anxiety, phobias, stress, & depression.
Aggression: One hidden weakness in our relationship.
Aggressioncomes from hurt and frustration. On the surface, it can appear as anger. Consequently,when the pressure accumulates, outbursts can happen. Heightened emotionaldistress often leads to less desirable choices of words and actions.
The Wound That Became the Work
What happens when you stop surviving your wound and start metabolising itThere is a difference between surviving a wound and metabolising it.Surviving means the wound is still whole inside you — managed, adapted to, worked around — but fundamentally intact. Metabolising means the wound has been broken down into its components. What was useful has…
Effective Online Counselling
Looking at how technology and online counselling can help with mental health.
Counselling: Important checklist- 5 essential questions answered about finding counselling.
Finding asuitable counselling service can be overwhelming. Here are five questionsanswered to help you on your quest for better mental well-being.